After the all night train ride to the end of the world, we finally met two great kids today. Brother and Sister, twins! They are healthy and absolutely adorable. In Ukraine when you become an orphan it is as a result of the mother's and/or father's parental rights being taken away from them. Apparently these two kids were deprived of appropriate nourishment and care and have been at this boarding school for 3 years. The mother's rights have been revoked for one year. When that happens the mother is not to communicate with the children or go any where near their environment.
Back track..... when we went to our appointment at the SDA and were shown the files of these kids, the SDA personally called the orphange to ask if the kids were there and if there was any family members that come to visit. If they tell you "yes" it normally causes concern and could be a problem for adoption. We were told "no." Our facilitator also called the Director of the school and she confirmed that there is no family.
So, we go to meet these kids today along with the director, the psychologist, the nurse and the caretaker. The last person we talk to is the caretaker and she tells us that the mother just came to visit the kids 3 weeks ago. Everyone was shocked including the Director. So, bottom line, these pour kids feel that their mother is going to come back for them some day and it's just a matter of time. The sad part is, she will never come back for them other then an occassional visit behind the scenes. We know she is not interested in having them back because the local officials indicated that she has never filed a petition to get her kids back.
Now these whole process and how it turns out is up to these two small children. It will be up to them to decide if they want to be adopted. Now we have to talk to the Director and unfortunately give her the task to tell these children the story of their mother and the fact that a family is here to adopt them. I feel so bad for them. This process will just continue whether it be us that try to adopt them or the next family. Because they will continue to be available with the government officials and families will continue to be sent to meet them.
After a long conversation with Jim today, we agreed that we have nothing to lose. So, we are going to try to win their hearts and see how it goes. I just hope that it doesn't end up breaking my heart in the end. I don't know what kind of strength I will have left in me to return to the SDA and ask for a second appointment to see the available orphans and begin this process all over again. My stepdaughter, Meghan will only be with me until Saturday and after that I'll be on my own to face these difficult decisions.
Please continue to pray that things work out with S & A, and we'll be able to adopt them. Thanks for all of your love and support, Heather