Thursday, October 2, 2008

Here Today -- Gone Tomorrow!

Just when you think things are heading in the right direction. I'm so sorry for not posting sooner. It certainly is not as a result of not wanting to, but as a result of not having internet for the last couple of days.

Things, in the end, did not go well with the twins. We had their consent. Then overnight, things just changed. We believe that the kids were scared into staying and that one of the staff contacted their mother, who in turn contacted them. The Director was on our side, but in the hospital and the Vice Director proceeded to make our lives a living hell. I witnessed a conversation that she had with the children. I couldn't even understand what she was saying (obviously) but certainly felt the threatening tone in her voice as she proceeded to scare the children.

So, day before last, I headed back to Kiev on the overnight train and arrived yesterday morning. We immediately filed another Petition for a second appointment with the SDA. Hopefully, we will hear tomorrow when the appointment will be. I can't stand being in this place any longer and am dying to come home. But Jim and I feel for as far as we have come, we can't turn around now. Hopefully, one day next week, I'll get my next appointment.

So, until then, I now have internet and American TV. Life is as about as good as it can get considering the circumstances and where I am.

Please continue to pray that things works out on the second go around!!!!! I'm strong, but not that strong, if they don't.

Take care,


Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry, Heather. I know you and Jim are devastated. Keep your heads high and spirits up. I'm thinking of both of you, this has to be so hard for you guys. Stay Strong Honey.... There is a little person out there waiting for you to find them.

Love, Holly

Kevin & Pam said...

So sorry to hear things didn't work out. I am sure you will find your child soon. Just keep praying. I will too.

The D'Antuono Family said...

Heather- As you khow- I am with you all the way. I know you can do this, you ARE that strong. Now go get a glass of wine and some crepes at O'Briens, and relax. There is nothing more for you to do until you hear when your appointment will be. I am praying for you and holding you close to my heart for strength. If you want to chat, email me and let me know a good time to call you.
Love, Kristina

Carrie said...

My heart bleeds for you. This is every prospective parents worst fear. Your family will surely be in my thoughts until you get your next SDA appointemnt. Hang in there and try to enjoy your time in Kiev.


Kay Hedeen said...

You have been in our prayers and will continue to be. God promises in His word that He will NEVER give us more than we can handle. I wlll pray that His loving arms will comfort you and continue to give you strength each day and that He will prepare the hearts and minds of all those you are dealing with. I love you Heather. Kay Lee and Clem

cara said...

We are here suffering with you. We have been in ukraine for 39 days now. We still haven't gotten to court. We came here to adopt our son's biological brothers 10 & 14. Our son is almost 5. I am stick to death of this place too, I just want to go home, but I know that good things come to those who wait. Hang in there, we have met lots of great kids who are 9 or 10 years old. Cara

Kathryn said...

Heather: Remember everything happens for a reason. Good fate will follow you, its just around the corner. Positive energy will lead to positive results. Kathryn.

Mark said...

Jim keeps me updated at work and I update Ann at home. Sad to hear about the twins.

I know you are looking at files again. Keep your hope for the next opportunity.

Our thoughts are with you. Mark and Ann.

Kathy said...

Hi Heather-The breakfast club ladies are thinking about you-keep you good positive attitude up and things will work out. Kathy

adopting2fromUkraine said...

Oh Heather, I am so sorry to hear this! We had the same thing happen. We received the referral for two girls, but we think someone from the orphanage called her aunt and told her we were there to adopt her. We arrived on a Friday and the aunt showed up on Monday. The orphanage director and the assistant director knew T was making a mistake telling us no, but she had to make her own decision.

It was devastating to say the least.

We will be praying for you!


Susan said...

My family members encountered a similar situation three years ago with a trio of very young siblings (who also had sporadically involved biological relatives), but eventually found their two darling daughters, who became available very shortly before their parents met them. We - their immediate and extended family - are so thankful that things worked out as they did.

The girls were almost seven and nine when they came home. They are delightful children and are thriving in all ways.

I sympathize with your disappointment and frustration, and pray that you will find your children soon.

Best wishes,
Susan in Ky
Cousin to two from Ukraine

Anonymous said...

Dear Heather, Please also understand that "orphans" are an industry. People "make a living" in this industry. Just think, what if all the orphans in Ukraine suddenly were placed with loving families there..... well I think you hve just seen it.
David Cottrell

THE ISBELL'S said...

My heart hurts for you-- this is the reality that our family and a lot of others feared. Know that you have come this far for a purpose and hold on to that. God has a plan (child or not) for our lives that He WILL give to us... in His timing and His way. My prayer is that your next appointment is quick to come and that you will know without a doubt that God has shown up in that SDA room. Find encouragement in knowing that there are a lot of people out there grieving with you and cheering for you as well..

Stefanie said...

I am so sorry to hear about this. My husband and I are in Ukraine adopting 3 boys and it has been a very hard journey.
Please feel free to call us or email us. We are in Kiev
cell 380958375774

The Flying Eagle said...

Heather! OMG I am so sorry. I was without internet on my return trip and have fallen so far behind on your journey. How heart wrenching not only for you but for those dear children condemed by misdirected adults. You will be in our prayers for your 2nd appt. If you have email -- please email me at or call me anytime 314-72-0287 --- my eyes were opened to some SDA practices while I was there --- it may be worth a consideration. Take care. Monica

Matt and Aimee Garrett said...
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Matt and Aimee Garrett said...

Heather: Horribley dissapointing. Wife and I are in Mariupol as I write this. We are crossing our fingers. Just finished "blogging", myself. We have close friends up near Chernobyl close to closing the deal but it has been nothing short of a living nightmare. Not knowing you well, I don't have the words to offer any more than what has already been said by many who are obviously close. Keep "blogging", it's therapeutic and allows those who do so, to approach the Lord with specificity-He likes that!

Anonymous said...

Aw Jeeze girl!!! Things will turn around - as our old story goes things happen for a reason - keep believing!!!! I wish I could come over and be with you. Love ya guys

Stacey and Dan